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College Courtship

Updated: Nov 8, 2020

You know what is so much more fun than dating boys? Dating men.



Trey was the son of my boss, and he was super attractive, but a little bit naughty. Too naughty for me to get serious about, although that didn't stop me from enjoying the few dates I had with him. His class was next door to mine, so whenever I walked past his room he'd catch my eye and wink.


I dated countless boys that I met through my various jobs. Seriously, if you want to get asked out more, become a cashier.



Jake gave me this letter with a bouquet of Dum-Dums.



I loved how JD asked me out the first time. He said, "Will you have dinner with me?" just like they do in the movies. I dated JD long enough to kiss him, so for me that was pretty serious.


Nicky and I were both cautious kissers. We were careful not to get too involved with our dates until we were sure there was real potential there.

Here's some good news: _____ finally kissed Nicky! I'm very happy for them. Nicky seems confused right now (it's a trend these days) but she was still very pleased.

One of my biggest hang-ups with dating was that I had such strong feelings for Gil. Our on-again off-again relationship held me back constantly.

____ tried to kiss me last night! You know, I couldn't do it. I kept on thinking of Gil and wishing it was him and I couldn't make myself do it.

I WISH I KNEW so I could GET ON with my life! S--- is texting me right now about our date tomorrow. He's such a sweet guy, I'd really like to have a chance to fall for him.


I never dated this next boy, but I thought his letter was interesting. He was the most guarded, formal young man I've ever met.

I wanted to write a note to you to express what has impressed me about you. Your interest in others is so compelling... your dedication to your friends and family is strengthening and such a powerful lesson of love. Thank you for your patience with me and the differences that we have between us... I'm sorry for not having been more open with you. I apologize for holding you at a distance and I hope to value our friendship in a greater measure. Merry Christmas. I hope that Christmas will be a holy day for you and your family. Regards-

The grueling aspect of dating in college was that we were all openly looking for a spouse. It leant a weight to the proceedings which was overwhelming at times. Here's a beautiful apology letter from a short-term boyfriend that I had to let down. He wasn't happy with the way that he had responded to the rejection.

Jess, I just wanted to apologize for the silly, childish way I acted last night. Truthfully, I'm very grateful that you could be forthright with me before things progressed further... I was cold and unforgiving over the phone. So in short, thanks for the time I had with you. I care about you and hope for you the best. Thank you for your offered continued friendship. I hope things go back to normal soon.

I certainly experienced my own fair share of rejection.

JD is going to call me tonight so we can "talk." About what, I wonder? I thought all our talking was resolved, but apparently there's more to say. It could go one of three ways: A- He's going to reject me (again). B- He wants to get back together. C- He really just... wants to talk. ?

Turns out it was option C.


I don't think I went anywhere without the ultimate goal of coming home with a new date scheduled. Every party, every Sunday service, every college class was an opportunity to meet that special someone I was looking for.



I was lucky to date as much as I did. It gave my immature self a little needed time to sort out what exactly I was looking for in a man.



What were your favorite or worst experiences dating in college? Share in the comments! Write back soon- Jess






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